This is where I am. I have been on the board of a nationally recognized domestic violence shelter for 18 years. I have been the board chair for the past four. The staff does amazing work. Their efforts are always difficult, stressful, and sometimes gut wrenching. We have a room named in memory of a little boy who was killed by his father after leaving the shelter. The room has a finger painting in it that he did when he was 1 1/2 years old. Every time I look at it I feel like puking. It is not just the physical abuse either. It is about control. Sometimes that is threats. Sometimes that is not allowing them to see others. Almost always it includes making sure the victim doesn't have some basic life skills. It is amazing how many of the women in our shelter don't know how to write a check or balance a checking account because the abuser wouldn't let them learn. This is the type of barrier that often keeps women in the situation they are in. They feel helpless and are afraid they can't survive basic life needs (and are told they cannot repeatedly by the abuser). But we have victories. We have families that are getting out of the terrible situation they are in and making a better life for themselves. We have women who are being trained to get their own jobs and to take control of their lives (and are being taught how to handle money, interview, write resumes and fill out job applications). I know many women who have left abusive situations and are thriving. But, I always feel like it is just a partial victory. Abusers don't tend to stop on their own. So while I celebrate the success of the woman and/or family that has gotten out of the abusive situation, I can't help but think that the abuser is now on to another relationship and the process is repeating. The total victory would be getting the abused AND the abuser help so he (sometimes she, though not often) stops the cycle of abuse. I don't want Addison Russell on the team. But I don't want him discarded either (as a person, I don't care about his impact on the roster or if we can get "assets" for him). By totally discarding the abuser (and believe me, I understand why anyone would want to do so), we are inevitably creating more victims. We are inevitably creating more generations of abusers. So, IF he is really trying, and IF the Cubs are really working to make him a better person, I applaud that. Even if he gets successfully rehabilitated I don't know that I'll ever be able to warm up to him again, but I will be happy that another woman or child is not being abused. Thanks for the work you do! I think I understand your point about not discarding abusers, but seems like in this case the Cubs could have moved on without it being a discarding type of thing. I suppose we'll see how they handle him. It'd be pretty interesting if for instance they demoted him to Iowa or even AZ and told him to work on his issues without the stress on MLB and the travel and all that for a while. That might actually help him get a better footing if he really worked on rehabilitation. On the flip side, going right back to the MLB team seems like it would be a ripe environment to falling back on his behavior (not that the under the alternative he isn't very likely to do so as well). I understand your feelings. When I say "not discarded" I didn't mean I didn't want them to non-tender him. I did. But I want him to be worked with. Could the Cubs have had an impact on that if they non-tendered him? I honestly don't know. But it doesn't just fall on the Cubs to be the catalyst for change either. Russell's parents, friends, and agent will play a big role too. Hopefully he never plays another game for the Cubs and more importantly, stops abusing.