your second sentence is just wrong. rarely are people as anonymous online as they think. but specific to nsbb, many (most?) of the people on this forum have eventually become connected in other ways, whether social media, other forums, or fantasy sports leagues. So many of us know some people here outside the forum. Moreover, you linked to a profile of yourself, so you aren't anonymous either. regardless, even if you were anonymous, Thurman makes a great point. When you come into any community, online or not, anonymous or not, you need to figure out how things work and how you fit in. Some people may be able to just barge in and be rockstars, but almost everyone needs to figure stuff out first. finally, i don't think anyone hates you. i shouldn't speak for everyone, I guess, someone might hate you. but i think mostly people are annoyed by some of your habits b/c they remind them of the places they left to come to nsbb. others have had similar rough patches in their history. many of them are gone, but some are still around. it's not impossible to stop annoying the hell out of everyone and have a happier existence here.