i don't want to argue about this or have a back and forth, but if he had sex with this person without her consent, he is a rapist (and a lot of other very bad things and i hope something terrible happens to him). i don't care about any spectrum or the use of force or any of that. and yes, where he falls between totally innocent and rape is far from known, but this all started when you complained that someone said starlin "might be" a rapist. holy god do i ever hope he didn't do this, but there's not much reason to think you can say "oh, don't even say that he might be a rapist, there's no way that's true."