Ok Dr. Ease up. not "dr. ease up". I'm referring to this specific situation and you claiming you'd be pissed if he said what he said to your kid. If it was something where he was out of line or mistreating a kid, absolutely a parent should be pissed. But your overly dramatic reaction to his story is silly. So now I'm a doctor? I guess I still don't get it, but whatever. I don't think being pissed if someone guilt trips your 9-year-old is a "silly, overly dramatic reaction." I think that's a pretty bad lesson to teach a 9-year-old. So yes, I'd be a little pissed. But I think you're overstating my reaction. I probably wouldn't say anything to the coach, though I'd probably talk about it with my kid. But it would upset me. I'm a parent of a young child and I'm constantly amazed at what he picks up, so I'm sensitive to the lessons he's learning from others (whether they know he's learning from them or not). I'm surprised you wouldn't be upset if someone did that to your kid. Why would that be a horrible lesson to teach a kid? Its called life. If, in my job, I have a large project where a team of people is depending on me doing my part and I refuse to do it, I'm going to be letting the entire team down. Its the same thing, and its a good lesson to teach at any age.