As a psychologist who does therapy all day long (individual, group and couples), I would like to think that I've helped people make significant changes in their life. I would like to think that if Addy takes this process seriously that he too can understand his need for power/control in relationships and learn to let go of that. If I didn't, what the horsefeathers am I doing with my life. As a fan, I want nothing to do with him on my team. I'm struggling to make sense of and integrate these dichotomous views.